Okay so fashion is important to me but I can't call myself a fashionista. One of the few reality shows I will watch is America's Next Top Model. I am so upset that they chose Alexandria to represent Breast Cancer. The fact that she is manipulative, a control freak and downright nasty just further made it unacceptable that she is associated with one of my favourite causes.
I a firm supporter of Fashion Cares and feel they do so much good work. This girl though doesn't have the empathy or compassion that a representative of any Breast Cancer Aware Group should have. Choosing her underlined the wrong message, that it's all about the looks. Fashion is supposed to make us feel good about ourselves.
I actually was so upset by this decision that I can tell you that I will not recommend a Ford Focus to anyone. With an issue as important to this, the criteria should have been based on personality, knowledge and pictures but these issues were left by the side of the road. I wouldn't give a toss if it was for representing handbags, dresses or jewelry but Breast Cancer Awareness is too important to be represented by this girl.
Do the judges not view the footage of the photo shoot? While I think she was a bit over emotional I have to say that I was really pleased to see Brittani speak up even if it did give her a panic attack.
My only comfort is the bitch usually never wins on this show. They keep her around to make good tv, conflict is always good for ratings.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Homeopathic Medicine.
(letter to friend, 2007)
I keep forgetting that not everyone grew up in my family and takes such an interest in homeopathic medicine. I'm not a hippy freak, eschewing modern medicine, I am more than happy to take an antibiotic.
It occurred to me the other day though that some people forget that homeopathic medicine is Medicine. You should never use a tea in replacement of doctors orders but there are a lot of basic kitchen cupboard items that can help with minor illnesses.
I always keep some basic staples in my cupboard.
Chamomile is known for helping you sleep and calming nerves.
Rose hip and Hibiscus is best for energy.
Ginger and Mint tea are great for calming down upset stomachs.
Coffee will boost any pain killer with codeine and can help with a migraine. (You should follow it with a glass of water as it can also be the cause of a migraine.)
Chocolate is a natural anti-depressant.
Baking soda is a tooth whitener, acidic stomach remedy, can help sooth rashes when used in a bath. (Use sparingly as a tooth whitener as it can erode the enamel.)
Lavender in sachets or pot pourri can promote relaxation.
Chewing parsley will clean your breath.
Salt and baking soda will remove stains from coffee cups and counters.
Someone mentioned the other day they use salt water when their throat is sore but this is not actually a good idea. Salt can dehydrate the tissue in your throat. Baking soda and water or a teaspoon of honey works better.
Small doses of alcohol can help fight off a cold, calm nerves but it will not help you sleep as some people think. It can actually disturb your sleep.
Coffee and caffeinated tea are natural diuretics.
I can't think of more at this point but will add later. Going to get my coffee so I can wake up.
I keep forgetting that not everyone grew up in my family and takes such an interest in homeopathic medicine. I'm not a hippy freak, eschewing modern medicine, I am more than happy to take an antibiotic.
It occurred to me the other day though that some people forget that homeopathic medicine is Medicine. You should never use a tea in replacement of doctors orders but there are a lot of basic kitchen cupboard items that can help with minor illnesses.
I always keep some basic staples in my cupboard.
Chamomile is known for helping you sleep and calming nerves.
Rose hip and Hibiscus is best for energy.
Ginger and Mint tea are great for calming down upset stomachs.
Coffee will boost any pain killer with codeine and can help with a migraine. (You should follow it with a glass of water as it can also be the cause of a migraine.)
Chocolate is a natural anti-depressant.
Baking soda is a tooth whitener, acidic stomach remedy, can help sooth rashes when used in a bath. (Use sparingly as a tooth whitener as it can erode the enamel.)
Lavender in sachets or pot pourri can promote relaxation.
Chewing parsley will clean your breath.
Salt and baking soda will remove stains from coffee cups and counters.
Someone mentioned the other day they use salt water when their throat is sore but this is not actually a good idea. Salt can dehydrate the tissue in your throat. Baking soda and water or a teaspoon of honey works better.
Small doses of alcohol can help fight off a cold, calm nerves but it will not help you sleep as some people think. It can actually disturb your sleep.
Coffee and caffeinated tea are natural diuretics.
I can't think of more at this point but will add later. Going to get my coffee so I can wake up.
Living in My Magic World
I think if there is one thing that the Mountain Man would change about me, (besides the temper but really, I think he enjoys that.) it would be my magic world.
Sometimes when the world stops making sense and people stop saying the lines the way I want them written; I retreat into my magic world. It's in my head and to go there, I go lie down and build it up. It's not a place, It's my world the way I want to see it. It is my safety zone. It's my place to hide when the light of day burns too hard on reality.
I've always had it as long back as I can remember.
It was there to protect me growing up and comfort me when I got older. It was there when I lost Deanna and if I really, really faced the reality of that I was sure that I was going to break into a million pieces and never get back together.
Some people call it denial, some people call it coping mechanisms, some even say it's meditation. All I know is it's safe.
In this world;
1. A teddy bear can be my best friend.
2. People will love you back just because you love them so much.
3. My children are vibrant, charismatic amazingly gifted individuals who respect and adore their mother.
4. I am thin.
5. You can win if you just try hard enough.
6. Nobody says goodbye or dies. They just go away for a little while.
7. Everyone plays fair.
8. People actually get what they deserve.
9. There are no earwigs.
10 Catie will get married in a dress I designed and made for her when she's 30 and she will adopt children. (So I don't have to deal with the Mountain Man trying to convince himself Catie has immaculate conceptions.)
11. Cancer, Diabetes, Pain and Addiction do not exist.
12 My children know that I am the fount of all wisdom of parenting and let me raise their children by proxy.
13 Everyone Dresses Well. (It's MY world after all.)
14 My Gramma will live forever.
15 Dishes, laundry and dusting do themselves.
16 I live just down the street from my family and can visit them anytime I want.
17 Dogs don't shed.
18 Teenagers have a legal limit on cologne and perfume.
Can you see where this would be a great world to live in?
PS. And Spiders do not exist in this world.
Sometimes when the world stops making sense and people stop saying the lines the way I want them written; I retreat into my magic world. It's in my head and to go there, I go lie down and build it up. It's not a place, It's my world the way I want to see it. It is my safety zone. It's my place to hide when the light of day burns too hard on reality.
I've always had it as long back as I can remember.
It was there to protect me growing up and comfort me when I got older. It was there when I lost Deanna and if I really, really faced the reality of that I was sure that I was going to break into a million pieces and never get back together.
Some people call it denial, some people call it coping mechanisms, some even say it's meditation. All I know is it's safe.
In this world;
1. A teddy bear can be my best friend.
2. People will love you back just because you love them so much.
3. My children are vibrant, charismatic amazingly gifted individuals who respect and adore their mother.
4. I am thin.
5. You can win if you just try hard enough.
6. Nobody says goodbye or dies. They just go away for a little while.
7. Everyone plays fair.
8. People actually get what they deserve.
9. There are no earwigs.
10 Catie will get married in a dress I designed and made for her when she's 30 and she will adopt children. (So I don't have to deal with the Mountain Man trying to convince himself Catie has immaculate conceptions.)
11. Cancer, Diabetes, Pain and Addiction do not exist.
12 My children know that I am the fount of all wisdom of parenting and let me raise their children by proxy.
13 Everyone Dresses Well. (It's MY world after all.)
14 My Gramma will live forever.
15 Dishes, laundry and dusting do themselves.
16 I live just down the street from my family and can visit them anytime I want.
17 Dogs don't shed.
18 Teenagers have a legal limit on cologne and perfume.
Can you see where this would be a great world to live in?
PS. And Spiders do not exist in this world.
Tuesday, April 05, 2011
Our Canadian Military-Are you an Idiot?
I have just had another complaint about my, "We Support Our Troops!" sign on my balcony. Some snot nosed punk teen has told me that, "Armies Propogate War."
As my son is going to the Canadian Military this week to apply for MP I have mixed reactions.
My first reaction when he told me he was thinking of joining the military is the same one I had when I drove Yvonne to the Airport and she left for Bosnia? Afghanastan?
It's the Mother's All Out Panic. I want to drug him and hide him in the basement. No, I will not let my son go to War. I wanted to lock Yvonne in the basement. People die in war. Soldier try.
I can still remember standing in the airport lobby while the troops said their goodbye's that day and lined up to go. I wanted to go along every person in line and shake their hand or hug them. I wanted them all to come back. I wanted them all not to go. I wanted to ask them if they were idiots for signing up to go to a place where people are actively trying to kill you?
I wouldn't have stopped them if I could.
The image I can't get out of my mind is of a young man, (a boy really) who was holding his crying girlfriend in his arms. He wasn't crying. She was. She clung to him like she was trying to crawl into his skin. He had a look of peace on his face and he was smelling her hair. That's what killed me.
He looked like he was making sure he would never forget the feel of her in his arms, the touch of her skin and the smell of her hair. I realized with a cold shiver down my back that he was making sure he would have something to hold onto when the world went crazy.
I knew that some time in the near future this boy would be under fire, crouched in the dirt, fighting for his life and if he never made it home, his last thought would have been the smell of her hair. It broke my heart.
I knew at that moment I had to let Yvonne go. I had to write her lots of letters while she was over there. I had to support her in any way I could. This boy is willing to give his life. His life!!!! He knew he was getting on a plane and there was a good chance he wasn't going to come home.
He might never mow the lawn on Sunday. He might never read his kids a story goodnight. He might never have the life that I live everyday. This boy was willing to give up the taste of chocolate, his mother's hug, his father's smile.
This boy was willing to give it all for the smell of her hair.
He knew what we all should know.
A sense of duty.
Doesn't sound like much does it. Duty? It's a little word but it encompasses so much.
Our Military does this everyday. Thousands of men and women get on planes, boats, trucks and they go where people are going to kill them so that we have these things. Even if it means they have to give them up for us.
What do we give them back?
So I really believe the bumper sticker I quoted to the snot nosed kid, "If you are not behind our Canadian Military...Get in front."
As my son is going to the Canadian Military this week to apply for MP I have mixed reactions.
My first reaction when he told me he was thinking of joining the military is the same one I had when I drove Yvonne to the Airport and she left for Bosnia? Afghanastan?
It's the Mother's All Out Panic. I want to drug him and hide him in the basement. No, I will not let my son go to War. I wanted to lock Yvonne in the basement. People die in war. Soldier try.
I can still remember standing in the airport lobby while the troops said their goodbye's that day and lined up to go. I wanted to go along every person in line and shake their hand or hug them. I wanted them all to come back. I wanted them all not to go. I wanted to ask them if they were idiots for signing up to go to a place where people are actively trying to kill you?
I wouldn't have stopped them if I could.
The image I can't get out of my mind is of a young man, (a boy really) who was holding his crying girlfriend in his arms. He wasn't crying. She was. She clung to him like she was trying to crawl into his skin. He had a look of peace on his face and he was smelling her hair. That's what killed me.
He looked like he was making sure he would never forget the feel of her in his arms, the touch of her skin and the smell of her hair. I realized with a cold shiver down my back that he was making sure he would have something to hold onto when the world went crazy.
I knew that some time in the near future this boy would be under fire, crouched in the dirt, fighting for his life and if he never made it home, his last thought would have been the smell of her hair. It broke my heart.
I knew at that moment I had to let Yvonne go. I had to write her lots of letters while she was over there. I had to support her in any way I could. This boy is willing to give his life. His life!!!! He knew he was getting on a plane and there was a good chance he wasn't going to come home.
He might never mow the lawn on Sunday. He might never read his kids a story goodnight. He might never have the life that I live everyday. This boy was willing to give up the taste of chocolate, his mother's hug, his father's smile.
This boy was willing to give it all for the smell of her hair.
He knew what we all should know.
A sense of duty.
Doesn't sound like much does it. Duty? It's a little word but it encompasses so much.
Our Military does this everyday. Thousands of men and women get on planes, boats, trucks and they go where people are going to kill them so that we have these things. Even if it means they have to give them up for us.
What do we give them back?
So I really believe the bumper sticker I quoted to the snot nosed kid, "If you are not behind our Canadian Military...Get in front."
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Defence of the Heart
The Mountain Man has been watching Dr. Phil again. I wish I could parent block that stupid show. It gives him ideas.
You see the problem with shows like Dr. Phil and Oprah is it feminizes men. I'm serious! Everytime he watches those shows I'm in for a grilling.
Have you ever had a guy friend who complained that his girlfriend wouldn't let something in his past go? You know, she's wants to know if his ex was prettier than her, cooked better, better in bed.......she's got to know every detail? They think their wives or girlfriends are just being insecure or fishing for compliments but there is a much more fundemental reason and it's very valid.
Men just don't get it. There is a reason women need to know about every past relationship their man has ever had. It's really very simple. How are boys in our society taught to defend themselves from danger? They muscle up, get a baseball bat or raise their fists.
How are women taught to defend ourselves? Know your environment.
Yes I know this sounds chauvanistic and well yes, I am a chauvanist. Not all men raise fists or hit someone but 90% of the men I know, if some guy comes charging at them will stand their ground and kick some ass.
Women, though most of the women I know can kick ass, will only do it if they are cornered. Women are still taught by today's society to avoid danger. Even my Catie who makes me pity anyone physically threatening her--she's a scrapper-- will avoid trouble rather than go in head on. And this is the smart thing to do. It's just that if a woman does it, she's smart and if men do it, they are labelled cowards or sissies.
Sorry but that's our society. So here are these guys complaining their current girlfriend wants every detail about their ex's and it's driving them nuts. There is a reason she's doing it buddy. It's not just insecurity fella's. She's defending her heart.
She feels that if she knows why your previous relationship fails, then she can avoid that pitfall. If she knows where your limit is on patience, what you like, don't like, she can avoid hurting and upsetting you. Think of it like this. When a man and a women go to the jungle, the guy will weapon up and find out about any lions, tiger or bears that are going to get them. Women will find the place the lion, tigers and bears live and not go there.
So we defend ourselves physically by analyzing, asking questions, getting to know where the danger is. We have to know where the danger is beforehand. It's our survival strategy.
It's written into our society's code as well as our genetic one. Of course there are exceptions because society is equalizing out but sorry, we still warn the women and children when a predator is around. Look at our news? We rarely see the headline, "men should be wary of walking alone on the streets after dark."
This tends to make women think more, ask more questions and be more analytical. I've always thought it hilarious that the "other" woman convinces herself that the married man she is seeing is going to leave his wife and marry her. If he's had an affair with you, why on earth would you think he wouldn't have one on you?
The most common complaint I've heard women make about men is, "When I ask him what he's thinking...he says 'Nothing." How the hell do you think about nothing?"
This is where men don't get it either. Very few women, short of zen artists, CAN think about nothing. We make lists in our head, we relive a happy memory, we schedule our week, it's just female natural defence strategy.
So why does Dr. Phil and Oprah tick me off when Doug watches them? Because there is only one time in a relationship most men will grill their wives and girlfriends about previous relationships...Was he better in bed than me? Is he better equipped to the job?
When was the last time your partner asked you, "So did he make you laugh more than me? Did he make you feel more loved?"
This is what Dr. Phil does to Doug. After 23 years of marriage I can handle the usual questions about the ex's with every woman's stock answer, "you are the best lover I ever had and I've never had a better sex life, oh baby you rock my world."
It's the questions Hubby gets into his head when he watches those shows that makes me want to cancel the cable.
"Why did you chose me? What is it that you feel could take our relationship to a higher level?"
It's annoying. It really makes me realize how much easier men have it.
If I was a guy I could get away with answering, "alcohol and a feather."
You see the problem with shows like Dr. Phil and Oprah is it feminizes men. I'm serious! Everytime he watches those shows I'm in for a grilling.
Have you ever had a guy friend who complained that his girlfriend wouldn't let something in his past go? You know, she's wants to know if his ex was prettier than her, cooked better, better in bed.......she's got to know every detail? They think their wives or girlfriends are just being insecure or fishing for compliments but there is a much more fundemental reason and it's very valid.
Men just don't get it. There is a reason women need to know about every past relationship their man has ever had. It's really very simple. How are boys in our society taught to defend themselves from danger? They muscle up, get a baseball bat or raise their fists.
How are women taught to defend ourselves? Know your environment.
Yes I know this sounds chauvanistic and well yes, I am a chauvanist. Not all men raise fists or hit someone but 90% of the men I know, if some guy comes charging at them will stand their ground and kick some ass.
Women, though most of the women I know can kick ass, will only do it if they are cornered. Women are still taught by today's society to avoid danger. Even my Catie who makes me pity anyone physically threatening her--she's a scrapper-- will avoid trouble rather than go in head on. And this is the smart thing to do. It's just that if a woman does it, she's smart and if men do it, they are labelled cowards or sissies.
Sorry but that's our society. So here are these guys complaining their current girlfriend wants every detail about their ex's and it's driving them nuts. There is a reason she's doing it buddy. It's not just insecurity fella's. She's defending her heart.
She feels that if she knows why your previous relationship fails, then she can avoid that pitfall. If she knows where your limit is on patience, what you like, don't like, she can avoid hurting and upsetting you. Think of it like this. When a man and a women go to the jungle, the guy will weapon up and find out about any lions, tiger or bears that are going to get them. Women will find the place the lion, tigers and bears live and not go there.
So we defend ourselves physically by analyzing, asking questions, getting to know where the danger is. We have to know where the danger is beforehand. It's our survival strategy.
It's written into our society's code as well as our genetic one. Of course there are exceptions because society is equalizing out but sorry, we still warn the women and children when a predator is around. Look at our news? We rarely see the headline, "men should be wary of walking alone on the streets after dark."
This tends to make women think more, ask more questions and be more analytical. I've always thought it hilarious that the "other" woman convinces herself that the married man she is seeing is going to leave his wife and marry her. If he's had an affair with you, why on earth would you think he wouldn't have one on you?
The most common complaint I've heard women make about men is, "When I ask him what he's thinking...he says 'Nothing." How the hell do you think about nothing?"
This is where men don't get it either. Very few women, short of zen artists, CAN think about nothing. We make lists in our head, we relive a happy memory, we schedule our week, it's just female natural defence strategy.
So why does Dr. Phil and Oprah tick me off when Doug watches them? Because there is only one time in a relationship most men will grill their wives and girlfriends about previous relationships...Was he better in bed than me? Is he better equipped to the job?
When was the last time your partner asked you, "So did he make you laugh more than me? Did he make you feel more loved?"
This is what Dr. Phil does to Doug. After 23 years of marriage I can handle the usual questions about the ex's with every woman's stock answer, "you are the best lover I ever had and I've never had a better sex life, oh baby you rock my world."
It's the questions Hubby gets into his head when he watches those shows that makes me want to cancel the cable.
"Why did you chose me? What is it that you feel could take our relationship to a higher level?"
It's annoying. It really makes me realize how much easier men have it.
If I was a guy I could get away with answering, "alcohol and a feather."
Monday, March 07, 2011
So you are not allowed to wear make-up
*letter from 2004 to a friends daughter
Recently I was doing costuming for a group that included young teens. As I was doing make up I was surprised at the times I was asked by young girls to teach them how to do make up so natural their parents couldn’t tell they had it on.
While I am most sympathetic to those young girls dying to join the adult conspiracy of face painters. I also remember my father ordering me "Back up those stairs and scrub that muck off your face young lady."
Of course it was not long before I was able to wear make up and now as an adult I spend thousands of dollars trying to look like I don’t.
There is help if your parents have laid down the make-up law. There is a way you can be happier with the face that you find in the mirror.
1.
Study after study has shown that people react more positively to a clean and even smile. I still remember a guy from my favourite football team coming across the cafeteria to ask me who my dentist was because he thought I had an amazing smile. Funny thing. My teeth are crooked. It was a bluing tooth powder I had been using. It had bleached my teeth. It also removed the top layer of enamel.
My dentist tells me that there are myriads of safe cleaning and bleaching alternatives today. Check with yours before buying any product off the shelf.
A healthy smile is still one of the main attractions to boys. Ever see a toothless super model?
2. Make a hair appointment.Nothing takes the place of a good cut. Your hair is the one accessory you wear with everything! It frames the face and can even lead the eye to your best features.
Not all hair salons are created equal. Discount places often have apprentices or have quotas on their chairs. Hair stylists have to do a certain amount of cuts a day to keep their chair. These people are too hurried to listen to what you have to say.
Go to an established hair salon. Watch the styles coming out. If you hate what the people look like coming out then that is not the place for you. Don’t be afraid to ask people who exactly cut their hair.
I once spent thirty minutes in front of a salon because I was really impressed with the fact that the men were all coming out with hair perfectly suited to their faces. I brought my son there and the next day people at school were stopping him in the hall to compliment and talk about his hair. A good stylist is one who doesn’t tell you what you want but helps you decide what you want is what you are looking for. Don’t be intimidated either. Ask questions. Listen to what the hair stylist is saying and always remember that the model in the book is not you. Every cut and length look different on different people.
Ask your stylist how to take care of it and spend a little extra money on the styling products. They don’t have to be top of the line but most times you really do get what you pay for.
3. Moisturize, Moisturize and ProtectJust because you are young does not mean you shouldn’t protect your skin. I still think Petroleum Jelly is the product of the millennium. Carry a little around with you. They even make roller tubes. Apply it or lip balm to your lips every chance you get. It will protect your lips from chapping and help moisturize them as well as giving you the same shine you find in leading lip glosses. Make sure you have sun screen on first though. Your lips are one of the most delicate places on your body and need to be protected from harmful rays and potential skin diseases.
Sun screen every day and make sure you reapply. There are a lot of moisturizing sun screens on the market now. They not only protect you now from the sun but give your skin a touchable softness. Don’t use harsh cleansers that can leave your skin dry and red. You can’t scrub out dirt. You can wipe it away. Skin regimes can be as simple as soap and water with a little sun screen and moisturizer to follow. Some harsh cleansers can actually increase break outs.
For extreme acne you can talk to your family doctor. A lot of people think they have acne and find that their break outs are sensitive skin reactions to the perfume and dyes in products.
4. Get an eyelash curler.Though it looks like a torture device it really is the best tool you can have. It crimps the eyelashes and makes them stand up. It takes getting used to but once you learn how to use it you will never want to be without one. Male actors have asked me to teach them how to use it after I’ve shown them how it increased the look of their lashes. Imagine what it can do for yours.
I like to warm the metal ones in a glass of lukewarm water. Make sure the sponge in it is clean, soft and in place. Place eyelashes in it, about one or two millimetres away from the lid. I find it is easier to keep my eyes partially open and focus on the mirror with the uncovered eye. Squeeze the clamp shut and hold it for a slow count to ten. Let go. It makes your lashes easier to be noticed. That’s why they are always advertising eye mascara that curls the lashes.
5. Get some tweezers
the best you can do is just clean up your natural lines.
To find your natural line, take a pencil and place it straight up from the side of your nose. This is where your eyebrow should start between the brows. Then place it diagonally from the side of your nose to the corner of your eye. Follow the line up to your brow and this is where your brow should end.
Never pluck above your brows, but do clean up the dark hairs between and underneath them. Never, ever get impatient and shave between your brows. It will look awful when stubble begins to grow back in.
Never pull chin or lip hair. It will grow back and it will be a full time job trying to keep up with it. If you have a thick moustache, talk to your parents about professional bleaching or even electrolysis.
Most of these tips will require you to talk to your parents about how you feel and what you would like to do. You might be surprised to find they are not against make up but just the overuse of it. Ask if they will let you try these simple solutions. They just might not want you rushing into adulthood full force. They also just might think you are absolutely perfectly beautiful just the way you are! After trying these things you just might feel the same way!Until you are old enough to get your parents permission to have your eyebrows waxed Make yourself a dentist appointment.
Recently I was doing costuming for a group that included young teens. As I was doing make up I was surprised at the times I was asked by young girls to teach them how to do make up so natural their parents couldn’t tell they had it on.
While I am most sympathetic to those young girls dying to join the adult conspiracy of face painters. I also remember my father ordering me "Back up those stairs and scrub that muck off your face young lady."
Of course it was not long before I was able to wear make up and now as an adult I spend thousands of dollars trying to look like I don’t.
There is help if your parents have laid down the make-up law. There is a way you can be happier with the face that you find in the mirror.
1.
Study after study has shown that people react more positively to a clean and even smile. I still remember a guy from my favourite football team coming across the cafeteria to ask me who my dentist was because he thought I had an amazing smile. Funny thing. My teeth are crooked. It was a bluing tooth powder I had been using. It had bleached my teeth. It also removed the top layer of enamel.
My dentist tells me that there are myriads of safe cleaning and bleaching alternatives today. Check with yours before buying any product off the shelf.
A healthy smile is still one of the main attractions to boys. Ever see a toothless super model?
2. Make a hair appointment.Nothing takes the place of a good cut. Your hair is the one accessory you wear with everything! It frames the face and can even lead the eye to your best features.
Not all hair salons are created equal. Discount places often have apprentices or have quotas on their chairs. Hair stylists have to do a certain amount of cuts a day to keep their chair. These people are too hurried to listen to what you have to say.
Go to an established hair salon. Watch the styles coming out. If you hate what the people look like coming out then that is not the place for you. Don’t be afraid to ask people who exactly cut their hair.
I once spent thirty minutes in front of a salon because I was really impressed with the fact that the men were all coming out with hair perfectly suited to their faces. I brought my son there and the next day people at school were stopping him in the hall to compliment and talk about his hair. A good stylist is one who doesn’t tell you what you want but helps you decide what you want is what you are looking for. Don’t be intimidated either. Ask questions. Listen to what the hair stylist is saying and always remember that the model in the book is not you. Every cut and length look different on different people.
Ask your stylist how to take care of it and spend a little extra money on the styling products. They don’t have to be top of the line but most times you really do get what you pay for.
3. Moisturize, Moisturize and ProtectJust because you are young does not mean you shouldn’t protect your skin. I still think Petroleum Jelly is the product of the millennium. Carry a little around with you. They even make roller tubes. Apply it or lip balm to your lips every chance you get. It will protect your lips from chapping and help moisturize them as well as giving you the same shine you find in leading lip glosses. Make sure you have sun screen on first though. Your lips are one of the most delicate places on your body and need to be protected from harmful rays and potential skin diseases.
Sun screen every day and make sure you reapply. There are a lot of moisturizing sun screens on the market now. They not only protect you now from the sun but give your skin a touchable softness. Don’t use harsh cleansers that can leave your skin dry and red. You can’t scrub out dirt. You can wipe it away. Skin regimes can be as simple as soap and water with a little sun screen and moisturizer to follow. Some harsh cleansers can actually increase break outs.
For extreme acne you can talk to your family doctor. A lot of people think they have acne and find that their break outs are sensitive skin reactions to the perfume and dyes in products.
4. Get an eyelash curler.Though it looks like a torture device it really is the best tool you can have. It crimps the eyelashes and makes them stand up. It takes getting used to but once you learn how to use it you will never want to be without one. Male actors have asked me to teach them how to use it after I’ve shown them how it increased the look of their lashes. Imagine what it can do for yours.
I like to warm the metal ones in a glass of lukewarm water. Make sure the sponge in it is clean, soft and in place. Place eyelashes in it, about one or two millimetres away from the lid. I find it is easier to keep my eyes partially open and focus on the mirror with the uncovered eye. Squeeze the clamp shut and hold it for a slow count to ten. Let go. It makes your lashes easier to be noticed. That’s why they are always advertising eye mascara that curls the lashes.
5. Get some tweezers
the best you can do is just clean up your natural lines.
To find your natural line, take a pencil and place it straight up from the side of your nose. This is where your eyebrow should start between the brows. Then place it diagonally from the side of your nose to the corner of your eye. Follow the line up to your brow and this is where your brow should end.
Never pluck above your brows, but do clean up the dark hairs between and underneath them. Never, ever get impatient and shave between your brows. It will look awful when stubble begins to grow back in.
Never pull chin or lip hair. It will grow back and it will be a full time job trying to keep up with it. If you have a thick moustache, talk to your parents about professional bleaching or even electrolysis.
Most of these tips will require you to talk to your parents about how you feel and what you would like to do. You might be surprised to find they are not against make up but just the overuse of it. Ask if they will let you try these simple solutions. They just might not want you rushing into adulthood full force. They also just might think you are absolutely perfectly beautiful just the way you are! After trying these things you just might feel the same way!Until you are old enough to get your parents permission to have your eyebrows waxed Make yourself a dentist appointment.
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