Grieving Parents Are Allowed...

I believe every grieving parent should be allowed to;

1. Have two days during the year when they can hide in their rooms with their heads under the cover, the lost ones Birthday and the Anniversary of the loved ones death.  No matter how many years it's been.  You don't get over it, you just get used to it.
2. Be allowed to smack people who tell grieving parents, "You can have other children."  This is stupid.  You can't replace children like puppies.
3. Be allowed to have as many candles as they want to light for their lost ones.  Even if they could burn the house down.
4. Need to be reminded that bad things happen to you...not because of you.  No matter how good of a parent you are; If you lose a child you always feel the guilt.  Don't wallow in it. There is no purpose, healing or reason. "Bad things happen to good people.  Just wish it didn't happen to you,"  was one of the most comforting pharses I've ever heard.
5. Be allowed to yell at God whether they believe in him or not.
6. Tell the Smarmy Ass Jesus freak at the funeral that I don't find any comfort that they are in the arms of Jesus.  I want them in mine!
7. Tell people they have three children.  She died, it's not like she never existed.
8. Smack people who tell women who have miscarriages that, "It's not as if you actually had the child."  Of course she did, in her mind the child was born, married and had children already.
9. Be angry, sad, frustrated all on the same day.
10. Eat as much chocolate as they want.
11. Be reminded that they have friends and loved ones who love them, are willing to listen, hug them, get them drunk and let them cry.  (I did and it was my salvation.  Thank you.)